Stubbornness!

Now stubbornness is the most frustrating characteristic to entertain.
So when someone close to me reflected this trait, I only then realised it really wasn't a very pleasant form of attitude to take on board.

I can and I am probably one of the most stubborn people amongst my family. I can laugh about it at times but the truth is this dastardly trait can get in the way of so many things, particularly opportunities.

Mother decided yesterday evening to pinch from me and have a night of being completely and utterly stubborn, in fact I think she was in a competition because no amount of persuasion brought her back down to reality. Something had ticked her off and no matter how small or big this thing was, she had decided she was going to remain intractable. I tried the soft and subtle approach. Then I tried the slightly stern approach, then came the real harsh approach and finally came the attitude 'walk away and leave her to it'. Her being Mother was just not going to give in. I didn't like myself for doing that; that is walking away and leaving her to it, especially knowing she had not eaten supper or taken her meds. I wanted to shout at the top of my head and say 'Mother, for goodness sake grow up and get yourself together'. As much as I knew it would weigh a ton on my conscious, quite frankly last night no amount of cajoling would have accounted for mother coming to her senses. In fact she was murderous so it really was best to leave her to come to her senses.

This morning was a different picture, Mother was a perfect petal, the rain must have washed away the downbeat emotions and the wind blown away the cobwebs! Or at least that's the picture I got from our subdued telephone conversation this lunchtime.

Tonight, I think Mother and I will chat and hopefully laugh about last night's spectacular performance...'the award for the most intractable person...goes to... Mother!'

Sometimes we are that selfish we fail to recognise how our actions have an impact on those around us. I don't proclaim to never ever express my stubbornness, but I do proclaim that I shall attempt to re-evaluate every situation when my inflexible behaviour goes into action.


Aisha