Control Freaks...

I wonder if this is me.....

Well the most obvious signs of a control freak syndrome is preoccupation and worry with negligible details. Do you fret over things too small to worry for? Are you tied up with more than just plain perfectionism? Are you worrying too much about whether things out of your realm of control are going to upset the applecart - for no apparent reason? Well, then you're gradually turning into obsessive control freaks. You're not there yet, but signs are that you're not able to let go and the possessiveness is going to get worse.

Once something does not happen your way, do you raise hell and raze things to the ground? Well, anger is an old mate of most uncommon behavior syndromes, says psychology, and so is control freakishness. When something happens contrary to the desire of a control freak, he tends to go wild with anger. Not good at all.

Perhaps a slightly more unbelievable facet to a control freak's personality is insecurity. Control freaks are often critical of themselves, wishing they were better than they are. Very often they remain hungover with past events and failures, and are unable to move on. They may come across as quite pessimistic and worrisome about things not in their control. Control freaks are always obsessed with creating a favorable impression of themselves, but when unable to, get very agitated.

And finally, the main problem that acquaintances of control freaks face. A control freak cannot help advising others and pointing out others' mistakes. Control freaks try to mend other people and try to make them perfect. Or at least, what they think is perfect. They continually try to impose their own thinking and behavior on others, and try to align them to their own value system.

So these are the common control freak symptoms. Living with a control freak is tough. The thing with control freaks is that you can't live with them, but you may not be able to live without them either. The answer has to be a mutual understanding on both sides. Control freaks have to learn to neutralize their nitpicking habits, while those around control freaks should learn to adjust and at the same time try to relieve the control freaks of their problems.

OCD

So I have been a bit quiet lately, quiet it may seem but not in my head, it's been very noisy.  See there are a million (or what seems like a million) things  going around in my head at any given second, so much so that not much of it is coherent.  I guess you could call it stress.  Call it whatever you want but it sure aint a great thing. 

I've spent the last 5 weeks being a homemaker, holding down my usual fulltime occupational role, retaining a professional attitude, when I actually just wanted to say, well let's just that vocabulary is left well alone.  I've cooked, cleaned, washed, ironed, school rounds, oh that 9-5 position, entertained guests, baby sitting, baking, gardening, bills, lawyers, banks, mortgages, car servicing, birthdays, mending relationships, strengthening relationships, airport runs and so on and on....and to top things up, I've developed OCD.  Yes me, the very person who has an organised chaos in her very own bedroom, has OCD.  You see, I now line shoes in an absolute straight row.  My rugs are so carefully positioned on the floor.  The concept of scatter cushions is well quite frankly very messy in my OCD world.  Everything's clean, neat, tidy, so much so that I clinch everytime the bathroom needs to be used or the kitchen is taken advantage of!  I can't seem to stop using the washer and the vaccum!  I am clinically obssesed. 

Five weeks ago I was wondering how I would manage running a home.  Well I proved that I could but I've taken it to a level of absolute perfection.  I was once reminded at work to stop being a perfectionist,  the Type A personality attitude that will do no good in the long run.  So as I now hand back my responsbility I wonder whether I will take this approach in my own home, should I do so, I would imagine I am risking skating on icy ground, especially since I can't skate!

Aisha